Someone just recently posted a comment to my blog, which I accepted, that made me want to point something out. I accepted it because I am not offended, I just want to show them a different light.
It’s a conversation I had with my friend Crystal the other day about “confidence”.
I remembered we agreed with sarcasm on the fact that “no one can ever be confident these days”. Right away, your conceited, your full of it, your this, your that.
There are many people in the world who will tell you, you are many things, people who don’t even know you, who will try anything to make you believe you are someone you aren’t. People who aren’t happy with themselves who want you to feel just the way they do, because after all “misery does love company”. I’m not saying this person who commented me is the case, I’m making a generalization.
It’s the perfect blog topic and I was just reminded of it as one of my readers said “you’d be a lot cooler if you were humble”.
I want to respond to him or her with respect and no offense taken at all.
Why is it that in society, no one can be confident?
Why is it that I have to sit around hating myself, not believing in myself or feel like I’m just average just to get good recognition of people around me?..
For those who know me, know that I am very down to earth, and completely selfless. I don’t go around putting people down, being condescending, or telling people I’m better than them. It’s just never been who I am considering I used to be that girl in junior high school who got teased for being the ugly duckling.
Now I don’t have anything to prove to anyone, but I just want to get my point across.
If I don’t love myself for who I am, flaws and all, who will? If I don’t believe in myself, where will my determination come from, will I ever get anywhere in life, will I ever progress?..
I don’t think I’m the most beautiful woman in the world, I have flaws, I know I fit the mold of decent, but If I were hideous and loved myself for who I was, would I still be perceived as “conceited” or “full of myself”?..Anyone who is even remotely decent and well dressed will always be perceived as being full of themselves. Lets just cut the bullshit here and really think about it.
I have written down my flaws, written down my pain for the world to see, I am not super woman, But I have paid my dues and I have struggled to get where I am today, so If loving myself, and being confident is considered being “full of myself” than hey, That’s just who I am. You don’t have to like me, hell, you don’t even have to love me, but love the fact that I love myself, because there are a lot of people out there who HATE themselves. I know because I used to be one of those people, and I am soooo glad I am far from that.
So with that said, I hope that people start applauding those who love themselves, in a world of negativity, we have to love ourselves enough to go on, and live life as positive as possible.
Love me or hate me, this is who I am, and I wont change or water myself down to suit your standards.
I’m at the bottom with the Olivia De Berardinis books and paintings.
Best cruise, best trip, best group of people Ive ever met.
The other night my friends and I headed to Frog to party in these leather-esque outfits!
American apparel lame tights are EVERYWHERE and It’s not a shock considering they are so comfortable and give an amazing illusion of skin-tight leather pants. Look at how me and my friends express rock and roll individually. We all have our own unique way of dressing up.
For New Years I attended the Corio in a Karen Millen dress for a burlesque show. Everyone who knows a bargain knows that most of Karen Millen’s dresses go on sale before the new season comes in. I’ve been eyeing this beautiful champagne dress with the matching shoes for sometime now. I buy dresses from KM all the time when I need something sexy , elegant, and slinky.
On Xmas I headed out to Club Mansion in this…
Dress/shoes: Karen Millen
Shrug: Diesel Black Gold