Someone just recently posted a comment to my blog, which I accepted, that made me want to point something out. I accepted it because I am not offended, I just want to show them a different light.

It’s a conversation I had with my friend Crystal the other day about “confidence”.

I remembered we agreed with sarcasm on the fact that “no one can ever be confident these days”. Right away, your conceited, your full of it, your this, your that.

There are many people in the world who will tell you, you are many things, people who don’t even know you, who will try anything to make you believe you are someone you aren’t. People who aren’t happy with themselves who want you to feel just the way they do, because after all “misery does love company”. I’m not saying this person who commented me is the case, I’m making a generalization.

It’s the perfect blog topic and I was just reminded of it as one of my readers said “you’d be a lot cooler if you were humble”.

I want to respond to him or her with respect and no offense taken at all.
Why is it that in society, no one can be confident?

Why is it that I have to sit around hating myself, not believing in myself or feel like I’m just average just to get good recognition of people around me?..

For those who know me, know that I am very down to earth, and completely selfless. I don’t go around putting people down, being condescending, or telling people I’m better than them. It’s just never been who I am considering I used to be that girl in junior high school who got teased for being the ugly duckling.

Now I don’t have anything to prove to anyone, but I just want to get my point across.
If I don’t love myself for who I am, flaws and all, who will? If I don’t believe in myself, where will my determination come from, will I ever get anywhere in life, will I ever progress?..

I don’t think I’m the most beautiful woman in the world, I have flaws, I know I fit the mold of decent, but If I were hideous and loved myself for who I was, would I still be perceived as “conceited” or “full of myself”?..Anyone who is even remotely decent and well dressed will always be perceived as being full of themselves. Lets just cut the bullshit here and really think about it.

I have written down my flaws, written down my pain for the world to see, I am not super woman, But I have paid my dues and I have struggled to get where I am today, so If  loving myself, and being confident is considered being “full of myself” than hey, That’s just who I am. You don’t have to like me, hell, you don’t even have to love me, but love the fact that I love myself, because there are a lot of people out there who HATE themselves. I know because I used to be one of those people, and I am soooo glad I am far from that.

So with that said, I hope that people start applauding those who love themselves, in a world of negativity, we have to love ourselves enough to go on, and live life as positive as possible.

Love me or hate me, this is who I am, and I wont change or water myself down to suit your standards.


5 Comments on “Confidence.

  1. They just don’t understand you. And don’t frustrate yourself trying to make them understand. You know how people say, “well, maybe I’m just cut from a different cloth”? Well, maybe you aren’t even cloth, Jas, you know… Maybe you are cut from something different altogether…

    And SO WHAT if you were/are conceited? Many people can’t even equate the meaning of that word… It means, “being excessively proud of oneself”. So in a society where all the people seem to do is bring you down, you NEED to be CONCEITED, opps, I mean excessively proud of yourself, just to break even on motivation & positivity in your life.

    ^ Damn, I’m GOOD !!


  2. I just so happened to stumble over your blog, and I must say, this is a well said blog.

    Big ups to you, and keep doing your thing girl. (:

    Jacquelyn B.

  3. I agree with you, Jasmin, and you too, Infectious Troy!

    My English-teacher brought this up, because she’s spend some year in the US, and she was told by one of her American friends, that Europeans, in comparison to Americans, never boast about themselves, or tell what they are good at, etc. I live in DK, and here you’re soooo misunderstood if you tell someone that you are good at something. If I was to say that I’m good at drawing, or designing clothes, or decorating, for example, people would see me as being “full of myself, conceited, bragging, self-centered, etc”…. and I just don’t agree with that mind-set. Of course, if you think you’re good at doing art, Jasmin, it would be stupid to tell someone that “hmmm, I guess I’m okay, I don’t know, I don’t think I’m that good”, when you already know that you’re good at it. We all have our strengths and weaknesses, and it’s a strength to reveal one’s weakness.

    So, my word to you is, when people call you conceited, full of yourself, etc, just smile, ’cause you know they can only be jealous of your confidence. Don’t wait for others to tell you that you are great at something, it’s your job to tell someone that you are in fact great at something!

  4. Well said Jasmin, only those who know you will ever understand you. Glad that you have come to the point of loving what you do and who you are.

  5. Very well said jas. Your a very confident person and that is one trait about yourself that I have grown to love. Coming from a person who was once very unconfident in everything I did and I can honestly say that you, my girlfriend and best friend has helped me see me for me. Your an amazing and unique human-being. And anyone or any hater/wannabe/copycat shit talker thinks otherwise, let them spend a day with you and see for themselves. Till then, just let spectators do what they do best, watch you from a distance. Cause that’s all they can do. Myself and your family love you and except you for the amazing character that you are. Flaws or no flaws. Just laugh about it, cause the world is not ready for what’s coming…..

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